A true healer
January 18, 2008
It was long before I lay down on the table for acupuncture that I began to feel healing happening. It was in the tone of his voice, his total lack of judgment, the loving quality which seemed to surround him. I came to him very much in need of healing as I had been experiencing excruciating back pain for three weeks. My emotional body was totally jangled and I felt overwhelmed. By the end of the session, I felt completely different, and the session proved to be a real turning point in my healing process.
Of course, we all respond to different healers, and a someone who is a healer for me might not be a healer for you. It also depends on our receptivity at the time we see someone, as well as factors too complicated and mysterious to fully uncover which have to do with why something heals when it does. Nevertheless, this acupuncturist was definitely a healer for me. As I left his office, I thought “this is a true healer” and started to think about the qualities that make for a good healer and positive healing experience. Since I’ve heard other people in my area call him a healer as well, I felt it was worth exploring the qualities that are present in an effective healer.
Here are some of the things I came up with, and I’d be interesting in what others might add to the list:
- Is non-judgmental. I felt completely accepted and did not feel like I was being judged in any way.
- Makes life-supporting, positive statements. He spoke of his findings in positive terms. For example, he might say “your core issue is with this chakra and I’ll give that some attention”, rather than “this chakra is clogged up and blocked”. None of his statements created a sense of alarm or fear or discouragement. He never made me feel “broken” in any way.
- Is supportive without being emotionally reactive.
- Cares without being emotionally involved.
- Is self-confident and yet humble.
- Creates a sense of safety and trust.
- Works in partnership with you. Honors your thoughts and perceptions.
- Is not attached to the outcome of the work.
- Is open to questions.
- Listens deeply.
As I wrote this list, I realized how difficult it is to describe exactly what makes someone a good healer. There is a quality of “presence” that is impossible to describe. Something about them invokes a “healing response” in you. Perhaps the best way to identify a true healer is to tune into how you respond to someone. Healing is much more likely to happen if the healer makes you feel relaxed and safe, so that you are open and receptive to their treatments.
I’m also struck by the fact that I never mentioned this healer’s expertise in acupuncture. He is obviously very skilled both in acupuncture and energy therapy (he used hands-on energy healing as well as acupuncture). My sense is that while technical skill is very important, in many cases it will be useless if the healer’s personality does not allow you to be receptive.
Is the FDA really out to take away our health freedom?
April 23, 2007
As human beings, we seem to love to have enemies who we can blame for all of our ills. If we can just rid ourselves of the enemy, whether it is cancer, a political party, an ethnic group, a religion, a person, everything will be better. We want to see things in black and white terms, as all good or all bad. It makes us feel some sense of control and safety. We can align ourselves with the good guys and make war on the bad guys. It is very hard to live in the “grey area” that is clearly there if we take the time to really look at all the angles of any particular phenomena or issue. No one person, no one thing, is all good or all bad.
In the past week I’ve received dozens of emails from friends and colleagues identifying the FDA as the enemy who is threatening our health freedom — freedom of access to alternative therapies and products of our choosing. The email contains a message from Rima E. Laibow, MD stating that: “The FDA is using legal maneuvering to end your access to natural health products… and natural health therapies of all sorts.” She states that this is being done through the FDA’s Guidance for Industry on Complementary and Alternative Medicine Products and Their Regulation by the Food and Drug Administration. She asks that you take action through her website using the following link: http://tinyurl.com/2u7ghc. There you can sign a message to the FDA.
I wonder how many people visited her Natural Solution Foundation’s website and signed their name to the message without reading the message and without ever reading the FDA document to which the message refers. How many were willing to take the word of the Natural Solutions Foundation at face value without ever investigating the issue themselves?
I am a passionate advocate of health freedom (freedom of access to products and therapies of our choice, whether they be conventional or alternative). I have reservations about the FDA making decisions about the usefulness and safety of many alternative therapies, and I don’t have much trust that a medication is safe because the FDA has approved it. At the same time, I don’t think the FDA is out to deprive us of all access to alternative therapies. Therefore I read the Guidance myself. (You can read the Guidance itself at this link: http://www.fda.gov/OHRMS/DOCKETS/98fr/06d-0480-gld0001.pdf.)
I couldn’t find justification for many of the Natural Solution Foundation’s statements in the FDA document. For example, they state that “their (the FDA) ploy is to declare the therapies are “Medicine” so any non-physician who uses them will be practicing medicine without a license.” I don’t see anything like that in the Guidance. People have jumped to all sorts of conclusions about the what the Guidance is saying and what the implications of it are that I simply can’t see there.
The other day a friend expressed her upset about what the FDA is supposedly doing — “no one will be able to do Reiki if they aren’t a doctor”. As complicated as the FDA Guidance is, it’s quite clear to me that it does not mean that. There is specific reference to bodywork practitioners who manipulate the bodies of their clients without use of equipment not being subject to the FDA’s jurisdiction. If bodywork is exempt, certainly Reiki, in which the practitioner doesn’t even manipulate the body, would be exempt. Having not read the Guidance herself, my friend had jumped to conclusions based on a message in an email containing someone else’s interpretation of the Guidance.
The point of my post is not to try to analyze the FDA Guidance or Laibow’s position. To do justice to that I’d have to do a lot of reading and study. What I want to focus on is my concern that the same bipartisanship that we see in national politics is being reflected in the realm of health politics. There’s a tendency in many of us (including myself) to want either alternative or conventional medicine to be all right or all wrong. This kind of thinking doesn’t allow us to work together to find the best solutions. These issues are very complex and not subject to simplistic solutions.
There is also a tendency to rely on the opinion of experts and authorities. What’s interesting is that even those of us who feel we’re liberated because we don’t follow the advice of a doctor blindly, are still willing to follow the advice of an alternative “expert”. We find a new authority and don’t even recognize that we are still not thinking for ourselves. The willingness to look into the complexities of an issue and form ones own opinions, as well as the willingness to live in the “grey area” where there are no simple solutions, isn’t easy. But I feel we need to develop this willingness to really progress.
The Middle Way, My Way — Balancing Conventional and Holistic Medicine
January 29, 2007
Some people use only conventional medicine, others avoid it like the plague and use only holistic or alternative medicine. Most people are somewhere in between.
In some ways it’s easier to stand in only one camp, since the two approaches actually represent completely different worldviews. It can be challenging to integrate the two, both for individual consumers and for healthcare professionals who want to offer the “best of both worlds”.
Over the years I’ve come to use holistic approaches as a first resort, and conventional medicine as a last resort, quite the opposite of many people. That doesn’t mean I recommend my choice to others. It’s a very individual decision and one that might change over time. There’s no perfect system or practitioner or formula that we can rely on for everything all of the time, but unless we choose one system exclusively, we are in the position of finding a “middle way”, a way to integrate the two.
It’s been tempting at times to throw out conventional medicine completely, particularly since I find interacting with my physician around my choices difficult. I continue to use both systems, however, because they clearly both have something to offer.
To be able to use both approaches has taken a lot of study and the willingness to be my own authority and take responsibility for my choices. I’ve had to unlearn the old kneejerk response to accept the “doctor’s orders” and be willing to refuse certain recommendations and state my choices. Of course, to do this, I’ve needed to find a physician who is able to accept that stance at least enough to keep working with me. (In medical parlance, I am often a “noncompliant patient”.)
Our medical doctors can’t be expected to be knowledgeable about holistic systems and modalities which take years of study to master. (It takes an enormous amount of time to keep up with allopathic medical knowledge.) We also can’t rely on them to make our choices for us. I don’t think we can even rely on them to be straightforward with us if they do agree with some of our unconventional choices because they need to adhere to accepted medical protocol to protect themselves legally. I know a physician personally in a popular HMO who definitely has a holistic orientation but is constrained by the policies of the HMO with regard to what he can recommend and do.
No system can guarantee a cure of everything all of the time. The idea that our western medical system is “scientific” and therefore accurate is a misnomer. It represents a way of approaching life and seeing things which constitutes a philosophy or worldview. It’s research and methods are very much influenced by economic and political forces. Yet it is the system which is supported by our government and legal system. In some ways, freeing oneself from the sense that it is the authority for our healthcare decisions is similar to freeing oneself from deeply ingrained religious beliefs that no longer serve us.
Holistic healing approaches require more of our time and participation in our own self-care. They generally take time to work and are not quick fixes, but they can not only solve problems but do so in a way which promotes greater strength and health, rather than treating a symptom with a drug or surgery that can weaken overall health. I’ve found it to be well worth the time to investigate and use alternative methods of healing and promoting health.
If you are just beginning to look into alternatives, the number of choices can seem overwhelming. It can be challenging to find the right approach for your particular problem, and to know which approaches are safe and worth pursuing. A search on the web will bring up any number of offers of help and cures! One thing to be wary of is anything that offers a quick, simple fix, and certainly be careful in pursuing anything that is very expensive. For chronic, non-life threatening problems, there are a whole host of things you can do that don’t cost a lot of money.
While the “middle way” is probably the best way for most of us, there certainly is no “easy way” to put together a good healthcare program for oneself. Hopefully in the future we will have a healthcare system that has fully embraced the best of holistic medicine. Since that is probably a long way off, my sense is that those of us who want the best of both worlds will need to find a middle way for ourselves.